When we moved into our home eighteen years ago this month, our
neighbors across the alley introduced themselves. Gladys and Bob, both about
80, filled us in on the history of the neighborhood. How everyone had lived in
the area for over forty years except the young couple to the east of us. “They
aren’t too friendly,” Bob said. “Police are over there too many times.”
His last statement didn’t seem to bother husband, but the
thought of the police being their often didn’t give me much comfort.
Winter came early and husband shoveled snow. He started at
our driveway, then the alleyway for Bob and Gladys and our vehicles, on around
the corner for Lillian’s, the widow next door. He finished up by coming down
our front sidewalk. Bob let husband use his snow blower. That made the clearing
out the white stuff easier.
The snow seemed to hang around forever that year. Often Gladys and
Bob asked us in for coffee and cookies after the snow removal.
When spring came husband and I introduced ourselves to our
neighbors—all but the young couple next door—although their children talked to
us, the parents did not. Husband said not to worry about it, but I invited the
kids into our house several times. The ten-year-old boy I’ll call Jim had a reputation
for destructive behavior in the neighborhood. I figured if we became friends,
maybe he wouldn’t destroy our property. (I’m being honest. I really did think
friendship might work miracles.)
So when I second-handed I found clothes and toys for the
three kids next door. One day after I delivered a sack of goodies to their
house, the father followed me out into the yard.
“Don’t do that again,” he snarled.
“I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to offend you. I don’t have kids
here and I enjoy your children’s visits. These cost me little or nothing and I
just wanted to share.”
“Well, all right.” And with that he stomped back into his
house.
I backed off the gift giving for awhile.
In May 1996 my father and mother drove to Omaha from Oregon.
Dad cut down several trees in our yard and when he had to “limb” the trees and
haul the wood to the street, he asked Jim to come help him. Dad could talk
about anything and he and Jim became friends. Buddies. Dad called Jim “Butch.”
Have you ever noticed a nickname gives you a warm-fuzzy-special- type of person
feeling?
The middle of June my parents left Omaha to drive back to
Oregon. Thirty-six hours later my father was killed in a car crash. When we
received the word, we alerted our neighbors and told them we would be gone for
a period of time—we didn’t know how long.
When husband and I walked next door to our “unfriendly young
couples” house, the house where the police still visited too often, we wondered
what kind of response we might get to our news.
The children cried when they heard that Grandpa Orin died
and that Grandma June was in the hospital. The father also had tears in his
eyes. He looked at me and said, “I’m so sorry to hear the news about your dad.
He was a good man. He was really good to my son. We’ll watch your house for
you, don’t worry about anything.”
And we didn’t worry about our house or anything in it while
we were gone. The effort to befriend children opened the door to touch a heart
and possibly build a neighborly friendship.
What a beautiful story, and you are so right about nicknames and the way they make us feel. Ironically, my grandpa used to call me "Butch," so I got a rather sentimental feeling when I read this post and heard about another man who called a young boy by the same name.
ReplyDeleteHusband called our son "Butch." My two guys watched a lot of wrestling in those days. They liked a team called "Butch and Luke." The last time Husband talked with our son he said, "Good night Butch, your dad loves you." Touching memories. Nicknames are warm fuzzies.
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