Husband and I on coffee date in Fremont |
Grief is sneaky. There is no warning of when it will overtake you,
no “heads up today will be a blue day,” or no banner that flies through the sky
to say, “Don’t listen to the radio today, you’ll hear a song Husband sang
often.”
Grief doesn’t come with labels. It doesn’t say, “That movie will
touch a sore spot,” or “If you use that cup you’ll think of Husband.” It doesn’t
tell you not to use a fragrance, no you spray it and then the tears come.
Grief happens. It doesn’t matter if it’s three months or three
years. It still happens.
What do you do with grief that sneaks in to rob your joy?
I’ve tried to ignore the feelings. That doesn’t work. Feelings are
real—might as well acknowledge them and do something.
I’ve tried shopping. That doesn’t work—I’m reminded more of the
times when Husband talked to the clerks. “I better be good to my wife or she
might not feed me. She’s threatened that a time or too.” Often I leave the
store empty handed knowing the tears will blast through any minute.
I’ve tried sleeping—for me to sleep eleven hours straight usually
means I’m trying to ignore the inevitable. I drag myself from bed feeling worse
than if I’d slept only six hours.
Often I wait too many hours before I call a friend. “Hey, how are
you?” I ask.
Is it terrible if I say I feel better when they have more problems?
Still Lionhearted, Kat
No comments:
Post a Comment